Always in a hurry. The American way. Sometimes I even find myself in that arena. The human rat race of life. Why are we like that? Why do we subscribe to wanting it here and now. Do we even blame anyone? I think the evolution of man has brought us to the brink of that and translated it into our everyday life. It's almost as if we must make a conscious effort to fight that school of thought.
Dating and relationships are not immune to this mindset. We must take care and not try to hurry along the process of dating and relationship making. I feel we make enough mistakes and missteps on our own without help from being in a hurry. It can make us second guess ourselves and make quite a few irrational decisions.
Let's say James is always quick to come up with excuses not to hang with you and your friends when there is an event going on. He has an complement of reasons why he can't attend your office Christmas Party, your friend's wedding or a that jazz artist you and your friends want to see. And, on the same token, you are quick to dismiss his excuses as 'oh well' instead of addressing the issue of him being unavailable for most of your functions and the high vacancy rate of shade he throws on the things you want to do. Being in a hurry can move these issued from a strong deal breaker to a small deal breaker. You are being impatient not to rock the boat thus internalizing your frustration that will eventually, sooner or later, come to a boil. Slow it down, handle your business and hope for the best. It may be as simple as maybe one of your girlfriends used to date him. You never know. Figure it out before it fires you up. Just sayin'.