David.....
What to do if your relationship is drama laden? Even a perfect relationship is never devoid of drama. It is just the type and severity of it. I always ask if the drama can fix into a bread box or a Pod? From my experience, you will know when the drama is too much... and, like I have done time and time again, then stay entirely too long for the wrong reasons. The less drama the better. Remember, you can't change other people because you can barely change yourself. These people are addicted to conflict.
Shanita.....
Drama is about adrenaline and excitement. Some people are addicted to these chemical and emotional rushes. These are empty and selfish emotions and when someone is addicted to drama, and if their addictions are not fed, they will move on, I do not consider drama addicts to be healthy people. These are individuals that mistake intensity for love. Love is about kindness and reciprocity. A healthy relationship may not be devoid of conflict or problems...but it is our response that determines whether there is drama or not; if there is a solution or not. Drama is not about solutions, its about the response only.
How many of us have friends or family who are always itching for a fight...looking for a slight...want to rehash the past. Unless they are willing to change, you can expect this behavior on a regular. AND, if that is the expectation then you have to figure out how you want to deal with it.
David....
Shanita, you have once again hit it on the head. Drama associated with the wrong kind of intensity. I love the way you think. That's why we are friends.....
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