David...
What to do when you feel the relationship is getting mundane? Hummmmm. This is what I call after the post honeymoon phase. Someone once told me that when you stop doing what it took to get that person, the relationship starts to fail. I do hold truth to that. I suggest shake it up a bit. New date locations, new dating moves, just new anything. Get out of that same old box. Do something neither of you have tried or done.
If you are always the aggressor, sit back and let the partner take charge. And, vise versa. Change up can be rewarding. You both need to step out of your box.
This is a phase that I think all relationships go through one time or another. You have to weather the storm. Stay strong my people.... Hang in there...
Shanita...
If its Thursday, it's staying in watching Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder. If its Friday, its an early dinner at the mall and the latest movie. If its Saturday then its dinner in town and perhaps another movie---this time with friends. Sunday its brunch and . . . This is what a dating rut looks like. Sure you make plans for an adventure the coming weekend, but when that weekend gets here you, him or even both of you are too tired. Friday get here and your "beau" says what do you want to do? Frankly, the great stuff may take some planning and someone has to take the lead here. I don't think every weekend needs to be like a visit to an amusement park (although once in the summer might be nice) but occasionally you need to mix it up. My feeling is that if its important to you, then you do something about it. Otherwise settle in, get comfortable because routine and not worrying about your weekends is one of the nice things about being in a relationship.
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