David...
A hard one to put my finger on. Do you chance on letting a relationship go because it has no immediate long term value? Or, do you go for door number two and throw the bird away and go for the bush and risk getting a lower lemon? Life is a chance and relationships tow that course. As in our previous discussions, I explained that the more hazards and pitfalls a relationship have is directly proportional to the level of expectations one has on the couple.
So many questions and probably not enough answers.
Do you take the chance? Is this like Vegas? Let's make a deal?
A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush...... How much of a gambling man or woman are you? Do you go for the other one or do you fertilize yours? How much is it worth to you? But, there are times when you should just get rid of both and start from scratch. Hindsight is 20/20. Myopic karma....
Shanita....
Age is playing a factor in this one for me David. Being in a stable relationship is my goal. I thought I was in one...for almost four years I thought I was in one, with a year break in between year three and four. If I was twenty or thirty, this time is no big deal, but in my 50's, I feel I don't have that kind of time to waste. Right now I'm dating someone I like very much. The long term prospects are very much in the air...I guess the question comes down to two points..am I okay with the status quo indefinitely and does there need to be some identifiable progress evident as we go along.
I am just not sure. Right now dating for me is a plethora of opportunity, but as I age, will those opportunities dim? This feels very much like a women's issue (I hate to say). For guys, as an outsider looking in, as long as you breathe you have opportunity. What say you mon frere?
David....
Not all guys are like that. We all are different in taste and wants. I would love to be in a stable relationship, but is there such a thing as one? We strive all our adult lives to find the perfect relationship and to what extent do we find it? That old subject of settling come back into play. Who likes taking chances? I call this my let's make a deal logic.
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